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Old 10-26-2012, 08:10 AM   #1
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Dealing with loss

Its come to my attention you seem to think i'm talking about my ex or relationships.

This infact, is about the loss of my daughter Kate.

It's been 6 months and i still can't get over it

Usually i turn to booze to help me forget for a while but thats pretty self destructive. I try to immerse myself in video games or talk to friends to distract myself which can help for a little while. Worst times is usually when either going to sleep or when im at work with down time..

Whos experienced loss and what did you do to get over it

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Old 10-26-2012, 08:16 AM   #2
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I know where you are talking about.
I never had a loss like this.
But yeah, I understand why you can't get over it.
Hhhhmmm, down time is own time?
Because maybe you can listen some music in your own time at work.
And if you are going to sleep, maybe reading a book or something till you fall asleep.
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Old 10-26-2012, 08:41 AM   #3
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This is pretty tough for me to deal with too. I usually lose all motivation to play video games and whatnot and shut myself in. Outside factors don't really help how I get over it...I just think about it I guess. After moping around for a day or two I'm usually back to my old self. The faster you accept it, the easier it is to move on.
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Old 10-26-2012, 09:54 AM   #4
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After moping around for a day or two I'm usually back to my old self. The faster you accept it, the easier it is to move on.

This. Instead of trying too hard not to think about it, just let it all out. Cry or be angry, however you emote the best, and just let it all out. When you procrastinate confronting your feelings, they just build up more. Just confront them right away and get it all out. The quicker you confront your feelings the faster you can come to terms with it and get back to being your old self.
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Old 10-26-2012, 07:53 PM   #5
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I'm an insomniac because of lost. I have these panic attacks at night and everything the scenes I witnessed flashback and I don't sleep at all. I usually smoke some weed to put myself to sleep, I'm also prescribed an array of sleeping medications.
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Old 10-27-2012, 05:55 AM   #6
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Old 10-27-2012, 07:21 AM   #7
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I lost my father and my grandmother, along with several pets. They haven't really affected me and had almost no effect on me at the time, but I'd imagine the quicker you move on, the better off you'll be.
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I've lost several members of my family. The only thing I can say is that you will always miss her. Always. You will NEVER "get over" it. You will, however, accept that it happened and in time, cope with it. The healing process for this sort of thing is a long one. I'd like to add that, in our society men are expected to have skin tough as nails and not be bothered by anything. That's bullshit. The ones who cry are not weak - they've simply been strong for too long. You should never feel uncomfortable expressing how you feel, regardless of what society or your so called friends will think of it.
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I know some people may roll their eyes, but when I lost my cat, it was devastating. The hardest part was sitting up with him, all night, while he was slowly dying. It hurt so much that I had to watch him suffer, knowing I could do nothing for him. That morning, we finally took him and had him put down, since he was already suffering. I had a hard time coping with it. It's been a little over a month, but I still miss him. I accept that he's gone and won't be coming back, and when I start to miss him, I remind myself that he was suffering, and he's better off now.
It still hurts though. I loved him like he was my child or something. I thought about having another pet, but no other can can replace him. My house is a lot more boring without him there...

Well, there's my story. Like I said, I mostly played games to shake off the sadness, or remind myself that he's better off now, since he was so sick. I realized I never will forget him, and it will always hurt, but you have to move on. The feelings never go away.
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