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|01-05-2010, 11:36 PM||#1|
OK let me explain:
there's this girl at school that I like, but the thing is I'm EXTREMELYnervous around her and don't like to be near her much because of that!!!
i really want to ask her out, but i dont know how to start a good converstation...
oh my fellow friends at NFF, do you have any suggestions?
your response is greatly appreciated!!
|01-06-2010, 12:00 AM||#2|
Not on the review team
Just ask her what she's doing this weekend, and if the answer is "nothing," ask her to a movie.
|01-06-2010, 12:22 AM||#3|
Good luck. I have severed my love emotion. Now, I am invincible to pain from girl problems. It works great for me.
|01-06-2010, 12:30 AM||#4|
hmm...why don't you get to know her?
become a friend and ask her out to dinner or a movie or something. and see where it goes from there
|01-06-2010, 02:45 PM||#6|
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listen dont be nervous.
girls aint s**t
theyre more scared of you then you are of them.
its kinda cute that you get nervous tho.
what are you 10?
listen think of it this way.
"that b*tch wants me. if i ask that girl out...shes going to do it. but then i have to spend my money. im better off asking her to just hang out at the crib and maybe buying some take out."
quit being such a girl about it man. girls are easy.
i got 99 problems but a b**ch aint one.
go ahead and get that girl.
cuz if you dont.
somebody else is going to.
and they wont be nervous
oh one more thing.
if you have anything nerdy. example POKEMON
GET RID OF IT. girls want men. not boys who still play with make believe balls.
|01-07-2010, 08:09 PM||#7|
Here's what you need to do bro.
1) Get over your fear of girls/women.
2) Work on your people/conversation skills.
3) Have self confidence.
4) Not mind about looking like a fool,
or embarrassing yourself in front of her or others.
5) Do not try to over-impress her on the first try or overdue it,
just be yourself, and try to be as casual and normal as you can be.
6) Take a leap of faith, and let whatever happens happen.
Ok, when you finally get the courage, willingness and strength
to walk up and talk to her.
Just simply, and this is very important, SMILE.
Begin with a simple but suave, "Hey" or "Hi".
Then move on to your conversation starter, like....
"I have noticed/Hey do you-Have you noticed (FILL IN THE BLANK)"
"Umm....I need help with a problem I am having with the
homework we got yesterday, can you help me?"
"Hey, how are you doing? You look sick, I thought I'd ask."
or if your feeling brave......
"Did you know that we have been classmates for (# of years),
and I always wanted to talk to you, but never got the chance."
Do what and say what comes naturally to ya man.
Be nice, a gentleman, jerks don't fly on the first try.
Do not slur, and do not talk down to her.
Keep eye contact with her,
and mention something nice about her eyes towards the end
of your convo, so that she knows your interested her
and are paying attention.
Most of all dude,
just be accommodating towards her, smile,
and do non threatening and non abrasive body language.
Women notice 3 things,
your smile, your eyes, and your body language
of the bat and throughout the conversation.
Follow these things,
and you'll do okay my friend.
Remember girls/women are human just like you.
Do not be afraid. She might be afraid of you more than you
are to her, unless she's a ho. LOL.
So get it on man.
EDIT: Would give you Rep, but need to "spread it around" more....
meaning Marvman needs to make more babies with other women.
Last edited by marvman3; 01-07-2010 at 08:24 PM.
|01-07-2010, 08:29 PM||#8|
Anyway, plain and simple without all that Dredge of inappropriate junk.
Girls tend to like talking about themselves, so ask about her when asking questions. Start with simple, "Hello(hi, hey whatever you get the point) how are you?" or "Hey, whats up?" Then gradually work in more personal questions, such as interests and hobbies, etc.
One thing you must avoid is the Friend Zone. This is like putting yourself in an inescapable cage. Basically you become Great, or even Best Friends, and she won't want to go out with you because of it. Here is my great example.
A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.
Thats worst case. If this happens you are SOL. Just be glad you aren't like this with every woman like someone you know.
Last edited by SirManguydude; 01-07-2010 at 08:34 PM.
|01-07-2010, 08:44 PM||#9|
what "Dredge of inappropriate junk"???
Do you mean the other posts/pieces of advice
he got on this thread from the other members?
And as far as "Friendzone" goes,
come on man.....
Every BF starts off as a "friend",
hence the "friend" in "boy or girl friend"
Looking to be more than "just friends"
right from the get go, is gonna rub off negatively on her
and you'll look desperate, lonely, and worst of all.....threatening.
Of course, if you really like the girl and have passionate feelings for her,
you don't want to be friends forever.
That's why there are levels and bases.
You'll know when to get to first and second base,
and that next level. Trust me.
Your right tho, that girls/women tend to talk about themselves alot.
Marvman can attribute that to alot of women he
has gone and dated with, even his own wife talks alot about her day.
But that's just how the way it is.
Women will always have more to talk about than men
(usually about the unimportant things),
and men will always be there for women.
Last edited by marvman3; 01-07-2010 at 08:49 PM.
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